Addicted to habit - or the difficulties of changing jobs

In today's world, finding a good job is at least as difficult as finding a good relationship. Those who are forced to be single but want a long-term relationship, and those who have been looking for the right one for a long time, are eager for a good job opportunity.

If love and work are stable in our lives, we feel safe and at the same time good. A stable job means a secure source of income, and this provides financial security. As a result, our soul can also become more liberated. Yes, money is not everything, but damn, unfortunately, a lot of things are about pieces of paper or metal. It is also a liberating feeling when we notice around us that money is not everything, but it is a fact that it should be. That's why we work. But it doesn't matter what kind of workplace.

There was a time when people could hold one or two jobs in their lifetime. This trend is no longer fashionable, but it doesn't work very well either. A very close acquaintance of mine tries to veto today's employment trends and, despite the new habits, has been working in the same place for almost thirty years despite his young age. If anyone, he knows every nook and cranny of his workplace. Colleagues and managers came and went around him, but he remained stable. In other words, everyone had to get to know their work environment, except for this acquaintance. Yes, but he saw what this company was like in its heyday. What it was like when everything went smoothly and he also experienced how deep it is to be on the edge of closure. The members of the management were replaced, many of the employees resigned themselves, others were dismissed. There was bitterness and happiness in this, but lately I have only experienced the first with him. Whenever we meet, he complains about everything. At first only to his new boss, then to his direct colleague. Finally, he has reached the point where he simply cannot say anything good about his work and this is reflected in a constant stream of complaints. He attacks not only me with this grumbling, but basically anyone. It's getting more and more stressful.

I wasn't the first one to advise him that if he's that bad, he should look for another job, because it's already dragging him down completely. He is almost old and sick. As soon as he hears this solution, he immediately starts arguing: he has to raise and provide for three children. The woman is a housewife, essentially they live off her income. You can't just change jobs irresponsibly. At first I accepted this argument, but when the stress at work appeared in the form of physical symptoms, we encouraged the change more and more strongly. It hasn't changed since then. Like this place is the only option. Breaking up is therefore as difficult in this case as if you had to say goodbye to a once great love.

Just as we are constantly changing in our relationships (after the initial strong emotions gradually soften, cooling may also occur), so the conditions at our workplace can change, and so can we. What was once good is now experienced as bad.

However, if the thought of breaking with the past, i.e. looking for another job, really touches us, then we probably feel that the time has come in several areas. Such can be the hopelessness of obtaining the expected position, injustice, loss of trust towards a colleague or manager, dysfunctional communication, as well as when we are no longer able to fulfill ourselves at work.

Many people try to save this relationship, but just like in love, it is also true in the world of work that you have to let go of what doesn't work.

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(Source: marmalade.co.hu | Images: Pixabay)