Not a friend, but a child

It is the desire of every parent to build the best possible relationship with their child. Already in pregnancy, we cherish loving, babysitting our little one for as long as she lets, and when she reaches her teens, she shares all her secrets with us as friends. Moreover, the perceived or real mistakes made by our parents against us will be avoided from afar.

These are very nice thoughts, but living in our present and looking back at the past, we do not do so. In our adolescence, even though we had a very good relationship with our parents, we certainly had secrets that only friends knew, but not parents. Now, with an adult in mind, there are things in our parenting that we don’t share with the kids. Not only is it intimate, too slippery, but we wouldn’t put such a burden on children’s shoulders even if they understood what it was all about. It is necessary to find a golden mean based on sincerity, love, and to dare to approach any problem the child has, to dare to turn to the parent for advice.

An unhealthy parent-child relationship is where these roles are reversed. They lose the childhood of a child who is found by family management too early. Whether it is emotionally or physically burdened so a child is unhealthy. In such a case, the parent may forget that the person who leads, cares for and takes care of the family is still a child who has to be in the same position in his or her position (learning). If a child has to live like this, the parent will soon forget that it is about their child and will treat him or her more as a friend, according to him or her.

Of course, it is very important to have an intimate, good and honest relationship with our children, but it should be done in such a way that we do not fully settle into their private lives - especially in adolescence - but leave them enough space.

Your child is not your friend, nor is he an adult who needs to know everything that is too burdensome for him. Doing homework is indeed necessary for the age of the baby, but a balance must also be maintained in preparation for childhood and adulthood.

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(Source: marmalade.co.hu | pictures: pixabay.com)